23 July 2019

Vitamin NO For children - فيتامين لا للأطفال ـ تربية الأطفال

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I want to tell you about an essential

vitamin you've probably never heard of if you're a parent or plan to be one it might be more important to your child's growth than all other vitamins combined and only you a parent can provide it I call it vitamin M the word know more and more children I find are suffering from vitamin and deficiency and they their parents and our entire culture paying the price let me illustrate my point with a story that's quite typical a father I'll call him Bill gave his son age five pretty much everything the little boy asked for like most parents bill wanted more than anything for his son to be happy but he wasn't instead he was petulant moody and often sullen he was also having problems getting along with other children in addition he was very demanding and rarely if ever expressed any appreciation let alone gratitude for all the things Bill and his wife were giving him was his son depressed bill wanted to know did he need therapy his son I told him was suffering the predictable ill effects of being over indulged what he needed was a healthy and steady dose of vitamin M over indulgence a deficiency of vitamin n

leads to its own form of addiction when the receiving of things begins to generate nothing but want for more things one terrible effect of this is that our children are becoming accustomed to a material standard that's out of kilter with what they can ever hope to achieve as adults consider also that many if not most children attain this level of affluence not by working sacrificing or doing their best but by whining demanding and manipulating so in the process of inflating their material expectations we also teach children that something can be had for next to nothing not only is that a falsehood it's also one of the most dangerous destructive attitudes a person can acquire this may go a long way toward explaining why the mental health of children in the 1950s when kids got a lot less was significantly better than the mental health of today's kids since the 50s and especially in the last few decades as indulgence has become the parenting norm the rates of child and teen depression have skyrocketed children who grow up believing in the something-for-nothing fairy tale are likely to become emotionally stunted

self-centered adults then when they themselves become parents they're likely to overdose their children with material things the piles of toys plushies and gadgets one finds scattered around most households in that way overindulgence a deficiency of vitamin n becomes an inherited disease an addiction passed from one generation to the next this also explains why children who get too much of what they want rarely take proper care of anything they have why should they after all experience tells them that more is always on the way children deserve better they deserve to have parents attend to their needs for protection affection and direction beyond that they deserved here their parents say no far more often than yes when it comes to their whimsical desires they deserve to learn the value of constructive creative effort as opposed to the value of effort expended whining lying on the floor kicking and screaming or playing one parent against the other they deserve to learn that work is the only truly fulfilling way of getting anything of value in life and that the harder they work the more ultimately fulfilling the

outcome in the process of trying to protect children from frustration parents have turned reality upside down a child raised in this topsy-turvy fashion may not have the skills needed to stand on his or her own two feet when the time comes to do so here's a simple rule turn your children's world right-side up by giving them all of what they truly need but no more than 25% of what they simply want I call this the principle of benign deprivation no vitamin n dispense it frequently you'll be happier in the long run and so will your child I'm John Rosamond author and family psychologist for Prager University